Archive for May, 2019

The Language of Lament

storm“My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, from the words of my groaning?” (Psalm 22:1) Jesus, as he is hanging on the cross, offers up this cry of lament. The pain must have been great. The agony of those close to him, deserting him. The loss of friends and family, and the loss of life must have been so overbearing that only words of lament could possibly come out. These words of lament are spoken throughout scripture. We find a collection of them in the Psalms, Lamentations, Job, and even in the words of Jesus. These are examples of how we can face those difficult times in our lives.

This past weekend, we celebrated Memorial Day. This is a day when we are able to remember those within the military who have given their life in service of their country. We are grateful for them, but we feel a loss, we experience grief when we are faced with death like this.

I think we can benefit from this lost language of lament. Lamenting can bring about healing in times when we feel lost and abandoned. We feel like God has left us alone and it hurts. It’s days like this that we remember loved ones who have died, but we can also remember other losses like jobs or relationships. I think we’ve all had a time or two, or three or four, when we’ve experienced pain and loss. Maybe you can think of a time that you faced this, maybe you’re walking through it right now. Can you see your way around it, through it, or over it? What would that look like? What do you think will help you in those times?

Does screaming at everyone help? Does secluding yourself away from everybody and everything? Maybe you like to be angry, or bitter towards everything around you? Or maybe, you just ignore it, hoping that it will go away? Do you feel like you are in a hole and just can’t find your way out? Do you try to bargain with God, telling him if God would only do this, you would come to church more, pray more, do more in mission? Or have you accepted the loss?

They talk about the stages of grief and what we journey through during these times of loss. I think you need to know that we all travel journeys at our own pace. So, it’s really hard to gauge someone else’s journey. And we must be sure to never push them through. They will get to the stage they need to be in, when they are ready.

The first stage of grief is denial. Here’s where people will try to ignore that anything ever happened. Denial ain’t just  river in Egypt! We get news that we don’t want to hear and we feel like it can’t possible be true. How could it be happening? We go numb from feeling and everything seems meaningless. The feeling of shock triggers our autopilot and we just go through the motions, unsure of what will happen next.

Then we experience anger as the next stage. And while many will just try to gloss over this, I know that I have, anger is a necessary component to the healing process and a vital stage of grief. The next stage of grief is one that I think I’m a pro at. I used to love to bargain with God and with myself. This is also the time we ask all of those “what if” questions. Then we get to the  stage of depression. It feels like being in a hole with no way to get out, even if you could. This is where not only does everything seem hopeless, but then you begin to think this will last forever.

Sometimes the loss, whether it’s a loved one, a relationship, or just a life circumstance, brings something new into our lives, and it actually turns out better than before. We need to trust God, that he will bring everything together for his plan. Many of the Psalms begin with the language of lament, of crying out to God. But they end with verses of hope and promise that God will take care of us. “Cast your burden on the Lord and He will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.” (Psalm 55:22)

There is always hope, there is always promise, there is always the presence of God with us, Emmanuel.

When this realization really sets in, we begin to feel the last stage of grief and that is acceptance. It doesn’t mean that everything that happened was alright and that it goes back to “normal.” It means that we have accepted where we are right now, and that things will be ok. That we will be ok. This is the hope and promise that God gives us, all throughout scripture. “Do not be afraid, I am with you.” Regardless of what is going on around you, God is always with you. He will never leave you or forsake you, even if you might think differently at certain times. God’s promise is true and faithful.

Forgivign-Yourself-Sermon-SlideForgiveness is not easy, but it is necessary. Last week we talked about forgiveness for others. We talked about forgiving those who have done or said something to hurt us. We mentioned that if we don’t, we end up carrying those burdens with us, like rocks in a backpack. They’re heavy and get in the way of us living our lives in the freedom that God desires for us. We need to forgive so that we can release them from our lives. You don’t really want to carry them around with you all the time, do you?

Well, this week we are looking at a different forgiveness. I want to talk a little bit about forgiving yourself. This is crucial when we talk about the relationship we have with God. It’s the vertical relationship. Last weeks topic was focused on the horizontal relationship, that which we have with each other. But both are needed.

Let me begin by asking you a question; “Do you feel forgiven?” Really, do you feel that you are forgiven? Do you believe you are forgiven? This is foundational in our relationship with God. God spared no expense to forgive you. Jesus died on a cross so that you and I could be forgiven and reconciled back to God. You are forgiven!

Scripture tells us that God will cast our sins as far as the east is from the west, that’s a long way. Scripture tells us that God will remember our sins no more. He forgets them! But I guess that’s not the real issue here. The real issue is that we have a hard time forgetting when we do or say the wrong things. I mean really, you can tell me all day long that I’m forgiven, but I can’t seem to let go of that thing that I did or said. I can’t seem to get past it. Does this sound familiar?

The problem comes in when we carry our past sins around with us. We begin to see ourselves as those sins, and then this is where we begin to find our identity. It’s like we are looking into a mirror that is clouded over and not giving a clear reflection. We look in the mirror and see those names of the sins we have committed. And that’s all we see. We don’t see ourselves that way God does.

What we need is an industrial size jug of window cleaner. We want to remove all those names, but how? How do we find ourselves in the middle of all this junk in our lives?

Jesus, as he was hanging from that cross so long ago, looked down and prayed for those who were nailing him to the cross. He said “Father forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.” But I can see something additional. I see Jesus looking down, through the years to you and me, praying for us. Father forgive them, they don’t know what they’re doing.

The best news is that God does forgive us. Through the power of the cross, the mirror is washed clean so that we can see ourselves the way God sees us, loved. But notice that this cleaning was not something that we did because we can’t. It was all done for us through the grace offered in Jesus Christ.

We are forgiven. We are freed. We are loved. Maybe it’s time to truly believe that and cast our sins off our shoulders so that we can live into God’s plan for us. Stop looking into that clouded mirror, not being able to see clearly. Drop the sins that God has already forgiven you for and see yourself just how God does. You are a beloved child of God.

You are fearfully and wonderfully made, in the image of your creator. Amen.

Baccalaureate 2019I was blessed to be able to deliver the address at my daughter’s Baccalaureate celebration this year. Some have asked about a recording of this message and since I have not been able to find it, I provide it for you here.

“Good evening and welcome, superintendent Hansen, principal Burkholder, faculty, staff, parents, students, and most of all, all of you graduating seniors, class of 2019! It’s ok, you can get excited, let us hear it!

High school is a time that you will all remember. Some good things, some maybe not so good. Either way, you will look back on this as the time of your life. “It’s something unpredictable, but in the end its right, I hope you had the time of your life.” Wise words from Green Day. Unpredictable, absolutely. But certainly, as you reach the end of this chapter, it is right, it’s right just for you.

You are probably sick and tired of hearing this, if not you will be soon. But it’s true, the world is laid out in front of you, your future is yet unwritten and like a good book, you are writing new and exciting pages every day.

I guess the better question becomes, how are you feeling? This is such a big step in your life. For some of you, this means leaving the house and heading off to college to be on your own, for the first time. Some of you are looking into a college closer to home so that you don’t have to move out. Or maybe you’re beginning your first full-time job, and your parents are looking forward to you moving out.

How does this make you feel? Excited – Happy – Uncertain – Worried – or maybe Scared out of your mind! What can I say that will ease your mind a bit? What words can I say that will remove the worry and fear about the future for you? What does God want you to hear? As you prepare to leave this, all of this, behind you? I believe there are a few things God has placed on my heart for you today.

Jeremiah 29:11 tells us “For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, they are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” (NLT) God’s desire is full of hope, full of promise, full of the future.

This is God’s desire for all of us, and it’s all good. God doesn’t want any of us to fail. I know that there are times that you really question this. You wonder how good can God be. Trust me, God is good, all the time! And God desires to give you the good stuff. The gospel of Matthew tells us in the 7th chapter, “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened to you. .…how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him?”

Ask, seek, and knock. This is God’s request of you.

You’ve reached this stage of your life when things look so much different than in the past. You feel like you’ve stepped out on this edge, looking out over the landscape and wonder how can it be? How did I finally make it here? And what am I supposed to do with the rest of my life?

The scripture passage I read at the beginning, was from the story of Moses and Joshua. Joshua was facing something like you are tonight. Moses, Joshua’s father, has been leading the Israelites for many years, wandering in the desert, and Moses now knows that the promised land is close. This is the place they were promised 40 years earlier as they left Egypt. But Moses knows something else. He will not make it to that land.

God has promised that Joshua will lead them over. Here is where we find Moses calling Joshua up in front of all the people to tell him that it will be him that leads them into the land they’ve been dreaming of. I can image Joshua feeling a bit nervous, anxious, maybe even scared about leading all of the people. But Moses gives him these words, “Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be dismayed.”

Can I tell you that tonight? Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be dismayed!

You may have things come up, and you may be afraid, nervous, or anxious about. Be strong and courageous and do not fear.

I want you to remember something for me, alright? Remember 7, 2, 45.

As exciting as this next week is going to be, as you spend your last week in classrooms that hold so many memories, as you share lunches with friends who you have known for most of your life, as you have important and meaningful conversations with teachers who are trying to impart some final words of wisdom and knowledge into your brains, you need to be aware that it will not always be sunshine and roses. I know, you don’t want to hear about how the “real” world is, especially from someone older than you, much less a pastor.

But you need to know that your parents, teachers, and even your pastors, have once been in your shoes, in your caps and gowns. We also had that vision of how things were going to be.

I was going to be this big music star, recording contemporary Christian music. I was going to be the next Micheal W. Smith, the next Danny Gokey, part of the next Skillet. Ok, maybe not Skillet, but you get the point. I had this wild and crazy dream of what was going to happen. For me, it didn’t quite work out that way. Now, for you, it just might.

Here’s what I found out along the way. God’s plan always comes through. My dream of making it big in music took me to Greenville College where I learned a number of things that I needed for God’s plan, even if I didn’t realize it. My vision of singing with a gospel quartet placed me in front of large groups of people, raising my comfort in speaking in public.

All of this is why I am standing in front of you today. Everything that I have experienced in my life has brought me to this place in time, to this vocation, for such a time as this.

Many years ago, I wouldn’t have dreamed that I would be here, as a pastor. In fact, the class that I despised the most during my college years, was speech. Standing up on a stage like this, talking to you, was so far out of my plans. But God had a plan for me, just as God has a plan for all of you. What is it? I don’t know, but I know that God will work in and through your lives to bring that plan to fulfillment.

Remember the number? 7, 2, 45? Good.

Right now, you have a dream. You have a vision of who you want to be, what you want to be doing. Go for it! Reach for the stars and run after that dream. Live your life in the hope and joy that is burning in your souls tonight. This week is a milestone in your life, but it is just a stepping stone on the path that you will journey on.

And let me remind you of a graduation speech that was given by Winston Churchill at Oxford University. His speech was only six words long. I know, you’re probably wondering why Pastor Jarrod doesn’t give us that kind of message? Churchill said this, only this: “Don’t give up, don’t give up!”

Incredible words, challenging words, inspiring words for all of us in this room. Don’t ever give up. When things aren’t going as good as they are this week, don’t give up. When you run into a closed door, don’t give up. When friends or family let you down, don’t give up. When you sense your dreams changing or a new vision is starting to form, don’t give up.

And when you hear words that seem to attack you, remember something Winnie the Pooh said; “You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” And don’t give up.

7, 2, 45!

Jesus’ disciples faced trials, persecutions, doubts, failures, but they kept going forward. Peter was probably the most boisterous disciple and many times he just didn’t understand. He would speak sometimes without thinking, act without regard of the consequences, but Jesus loved him through all of it, even in Peter’s denial of Jesus.

In the end, Jesus told Peter, who was the first “Rock” (sorry Dwayne Johnson), that upon this rock he would build his church. Even in the bad times, Peter was never out of it.

So, if Peter was never out of it, I don’t want you to ever count yourself out. You are always in it, always in the running, don’t give up!

You still remember the number? 7, 2, 45. You’re probably asking yourself, what does it mean. What meaning is there behind 7, 2, 45?

Down by 7 points, with 2 minutes and 45 second left to play, our Lady Cougars climbed what seemed like an impossible mountain. It was 58 to 51 as Erin Henze shot from beyond the arch to begin closing the impressive gap. A couple more shots and another three gave them the lead, only to watch it vanish with a couple of free throws by Tri-County. But, with 5.1 seconds to play, Dani Rush is fouled and goes to the free throw line. Game on the line, down by one point, Dani sinks both. Our Cougars were on their way to the championship game for the first time.

They could have resigned themselves to a loss when they were down by so much with so little time remaining, but they didn’t give up. They never gave up.

You may find yourself down the road a bit struggling with school, family, or work. I want to you remember 7, 2, 45. I want you to remember your cougars. I want you to remember that you are never out of it.

And I want you to remember Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”

You can do whatever you set your mind to. You can overcome every obstacle. You are a child of the most high God, and you are destined to do great things!”


Forgiving-Others-Sermon-SlideFor two decades, Wayne Messmer, was the announcer and singer for sports teams in Chicago. After singing “The Star Spangled Banner” at a Chicago Blackhawks game in 1994, Messmer was shot by two teenage boys. The bullet passed through the singer’s throat, so doctors weren’t sure if Messmer would sing again. Amazingly, six months later, Messmer returned to the microphone.

Physical healing was one thing; emotional release of the hatred and resentment he felt was another. For that, Messmer had to trust Jesus Christ, his Savior, to help him reach the point where he could forgive his shooters. When he did, he found freedom. As he says in The Voice of Victory, “Over a period of contemplative and reflective prayer and meditation, I was confident I had set myself free from the chains that had connected me to the incident.”

Although one of the boys had been released on a plea deal, the other, James Hampton, was still in jail. To prove that he truly had forgiven his would-be killers, Messmer drove 225 miles to Galesburg Correctional Center and asked to see Hampton.

Several years had passed, but Messmer found grace to say, “James, I’m here to see how you are doing.” After a two-hour emotional visit, Messmer turned to leave. Reaching out and touching Hampton’s forearm, he offered a benediction: “James, I bid you peace.”

“As the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.”

Forgiveness is not an easy topic and I think we all struggle with this one. We carry around bitterness towards others and even towards ourselves. We get so hung up on carrying these burdens, that they begin to become part of our identity. We live our lives with past hurts in the center, never truly freed from them.

Forgiveness is not easy. If it were, I think this world would be a much different place. It takes courage. It takes effort. And it takes grace. But we need to see that we aren’t the only ones who have a hard time with forgiving. Peter had a hard time with this too. Jesus had just been teaching about what we would call the “Rule of Christ” as he shares the steps in forgiving a brother or sister in the church. First go to the person and try to reconcile. If that doesn’t work, take someone with you. And if that doesn’t work, take it to the whole church. If you have to go to the final step, you are to treat them like a Gentile or tax collector. But remember that Jesus hung out with tax collectors and all of those who people in the church would consider Gentiles, or outsiders.

But Peter asks an interesting question. He asks; “Lord, how many times must I forgive?” Jesus’ response was one of hyperbole, an exaggeration. He says seventy-seven times, or seventy time seven, either way Jesus is saying that there is no number which limits the times we should forgive others. There are times however, that we need to be careful about the circumstances we put ourselves in. Abuse, whether it’s physical or emotional, is not ok. And while you can forgive, until the next time, it’s best to remove yourself from that situation altogether. We need to be smart about things and not just become a doormat for others to walk all over.

Please know that forgiveness does not mean that you forget what has been done, it is not excusing the behavior. Forgiveness is releasing the other person from the grip they unknowingly have on your life. If you bear a grudge or unforgiving attitude towards anyone, they are inextricably linked to you, whether they know it or not. In order for you to truly gain freedom from the past hurts, you need to release them, because they are not going to release themselves. You need to forgive them.

Too often, we find ourselves in the place of saying that we can’t forgive this person. What they did to us is just too much to forgive. But God reminds us that “we’re not stuck because we can’t, we’re stuck because we won’t”

Maybe we find comfort in carrying those burdens. Maybe we think that we will lose certain memories if we forgive. Whatever it is, we need to understand that we are carrying this huge weight on our backs. And we want to get rid of them, but how?

By trusting that God will take care of things. By trusting that God’s plans are far better than our plans, and that if there is grace enough for us, maybe there’s grace enough for them too.

Bring these situations, hurts, pains, and losses to the cross. Offer them up to God and let them go. Trust in God. Trust in God’s ways. Trust that God will do the hard work of redeeming them, you don’t have to. But you do have to release them from your life.

God doesn’t want you carrying around all of those burdens with you and neither do I. Let them go so that you can live into the joy and fulfillment that God truly wants for you.

It Was Just Yesterday…

IMG_0661It was just yesterday, wasn’t it? It all seems so clear, but how long ago? I remember that Mother’s day, it was the day that my wife and I found out we were starting a family. The excitement, preparations, and planning began and before we knew it, she was here. It didn’t help that she came into this world almost 4 months early. But in retrospect, it was just her style, always ready for what ever comes next, and usually pushing the envelope with everything she did.

It was just yesterday, when she was younger and the years seemed to be so easy. She knew what she wanted and would work tirelessly until she got it, of course because she was a daddy’s girl, it didn’t take much with me. Maybe just a little pout face, a bat of the eye here and there, and I would cave and give her whatever she wanted. (I know, not very parental, but I didn’t care. Still don’t.) She was always one who looked out for others, wanting her friends to be happy. She loved being with friends and family.

It was just yesterday, when we drove across three states to meet up with another young girl that she met online. Yes, I know this sounds a bit strange, but the circumstances were pretty extraordinary. It was her compassion, care, and friendship that helped form this bond between two wonderful young women.

It was just yesterday, that the phone call came in that you never want to hear. “There was an accident” and our daughter was involved. A normal 25 minute trip across town turned into 10, as I rushed to see if she was alright. Those moments are not ones that I would wish on anyone. She was more worried about her friend, who was the passenger, and the other person in the accident than she was about herself. She felt horrible, and I think if you ask her about it today, she would still share feelings of regret and sorrow. This is who she is.

It was just yesterday, she was walking across the first of three stages in her educational career. She finished her work at high school, with honors. She was the dream of all her teachers (We heard about this all through parent teacher conferences…). Instead of being distracting when she finished her in class work, she would take out a book and continue reading. There were so many times I asked my wife what the reason was for even going to the conferences anyway. It was always the same response. “I wish all of my students were like her.”

It was just yesterday, that she was walking across another stage, receiving her degree from ISU. Four years down, two to go. I remember her telling us that she didn’t want a party after this graduation, because she wasn’t done. She knew what she wanted to do and how she was going to get there. It was also during this time in school that another milestone hit. She got engaged to her childhood sweetheart. They first met before they were even in school as toddlers. How far they’ve come since the days of racing garage doors.

It was just yesterday, that she was walking across her final (for now) stage to claim her degree in social work. I remember driving so early in the morning to get there in time, listening to something special and remembering all the yesterdays. Yes, there were many yesterdays, and with each one of them comes a wonderful memory of who she is. Sure, my wife and I have made mistake while raising her. Sure, we didn’t do everything right. But whatever we missed, she picked up along the way.

I cannot tell you how proud I am of her because there truly are no words. Pictures cannot describe the feeling I have for the woman she has become. Everyone wants to be with her, to be near her, to feel loved by her. She is just that kind of person. Compassion, oh yes, she is so filled with compassion for all of God’s creation. That’s why I truly believe that God has placed this call on her life to care for some of the most precious people in this world, those who once cared for us. There is no shame in telling you that yes, I am crying as I write this because I know that both my wife and I couldn’t do this alone. God has been by our sides since the very beginning; the incredibly small, scary, stressful beginning. We knew there was a reason why God had protected her all of these years. Now, we get to have a front row seat in watching her do all of these wonderful things.

Stephanie, your daddy loves you more than he will ever be able to say. My heart is full as I think of all the compassion, faith, love, hope, and grace that you are filled with. This world is a much better place with you in it!

I Love You!



Get-Up-SermonLew Wallace once said; “I had always been an agnostic and denied Christianity. Robert  Ingersoll, a famous agnostic, was one of my most intimate friends. He once said, ‘See here, Wallace, you are a learned man and a thinker. Why don’t you gather material and write a book to prove the falsity concerning Jesus Christ, that no such man has ever lived, much less the author of the teachings found in the New Testament? Such a book would make you famous. It would be a masterpiece, and a way of putting an end to the foolishness about the so-called Christ.’”

Wallace went home and told his wife about the project. She was a member of the Methodist Church and did not like the idea. But Wallace began to collect material from libraries all over the world that covered the period in which Jesus Christ should have lived. He did that for several years and then began writing. He was four chapters into the book, he says, when it became clear to him that Jesus Christ was just a real a personality as Socrates, Plato, or Ceaesar. He said, “The conviction became a certainty. I knew that Jesus Christ had lived because of the facts connected with the period in which he lived.”

So, he asked himself candidly, “If he was a real person, was he not then also the Son of God and the Savior of the world?” Gradually Wallace realized that since Jesus Christ was a real person, he probably was the one he claimed to be.

Wallace said, “I fell on my knees to pray for the first time in my life, and I asked God to reveal himself to me, forgive my sins, and help me to become a follower of Christ. Toward morning the light broke into my soul. I went into my bedroom, woke my wife, and told her that I had received Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior.”

“’O Lew,’ she said, ‘I have prayed for this ever since you told me of your purpose to write this book, that you would find him while you wrote it!’”

Wallace went on to write a famous book. And we get a glimpse of his findings everytime we are able to watch the classic film based upon that book, Ben Hur.

Lee Strobel, a well-known atheist also set out to disprove Christianity, only to come to the realization of the truth about Jesus Christ. He has also written many books about his research, the first one being, “A Case for Christ.”

Both Wallace and Strobel could be loosely considered modern day Saul’s. They were non-believers, set on disproving Christianity. But through an encounter with Jesus Christ, they were transformed. They received new life in Christ and now proclaim the gospel message, the good news.

They both got up and did something with the news they had received. They got up and shared the message of Christ through books and movies with many around them.

In a scripture passage from the book of Acts, chapter 9 we find that Saul is making his way through the countryside, searching, finding, and persecuting followers of The Way, people who were following the teachings of Jesus Christ. Saul would find them and bring them in to the authorities, throw them in prison, or even promote their execution. He was there at the stoning of the apostle Stephen, and he approved of it.

People all over knew about Saul. They knew to stay away from him because of the history that preceded him. Saul didn’t believe, certainly was running away from God, and he was talking bad about the church, even persecuting those who believed. Do you know anyone like Saul? Do you sometimes act like Saul? Maybe you are running away from God’s call on your life, I know I did for quite a while. Maybe you’re talking bad about the church, or the member of the church?

Notice though, that God saw how to fit Saul into this great salvation plan of God’s. Saul has influence, he has some power in the communities. Saul has gifts of speaking to different groups of people. Saul can take the message of Jesus Christ to a whole new world. And now Saul will have something even better. He has a testimony. His witness of mercy and God’s transforming grace is one that will speak to so many more people and so God is going to use him in magnificent ways.

Saul also reminds us all of something else. And I’ve said it before. Saul reminds us that no one, and I mean no one, is beyond the grace, mercy, and transformation power of God. No one. Not Saul, not Wallace, not Strobel, not me, and even you are beyond the amazing grace of God.